So, you’re texting with a guy you like and you’re wondering how he feels about you. Maybe he’s just being polite? Does he see you as just a friend?
Keep reading and I’ll tell you what to look for in his texts to tell if he’s into you or if he’s just leading you on. I’ll reveal my number one tip to make him text you more and think about you all day long.
I’m going to share with you how guys text girls they like and how you can use this info in your situation. This goes for texting, Dms, Tinder messages or any form of online communication.
Let’s start with a trick that can be super helpful in finding out his feelings if it’s possible.
This one is pretty sneaky, if you have any close friends that he also texts that you can trust not to report back to him, ask them about how he texts and compare that to how he texts you.
If you can get a baseline on how he texts a friend compared to how he texts, you then you’ll have a pretty good idea if he’s treating you differently.
Here’s one phrase to look for that is a guaranteed sign that he’s into you : “I wish you were here”. This might not seem like much but it’s a pretty strong indicator that he has feelings for you.
Whatever he’s doing he thinks that it would be better with you around and that he misses seeing you. I’m sure you feel the same way about him. It’s a great sign unless he sends it when he’s in bed or at a strip club. Is he trying to impress you? This one can be subtle, if he’s clever. But think about what he brings up. Does he seem to be trying to give you a favorable view of him? Does he mention all the fun stuff he’s doing, the accomplishments and successes in his day to day? Any hint of bragging suggests that he wants you to be impressed by him.
If a guy is willing to open up to you this is a good sign. Most men won’t do this for just anybody. If he tells you his secrets, his hopes and dreams then there’s a good chance he sees you as more than just a friend.
If he texts, you even though he’s busy this means that he wants to talk to you and isn’t just doing it to kill time. This is a clear indicator that he likes you. If he keeps texting even when the conversation lulls or there’s nothing to say. Sometimes guys may seem like they’re uninterested simply because they’re bad at texting.
In this case, you’ll know he likes you if it’s clear that he’s trying to keep the conversation going even when he has nothing left to say. If he’s always the last one to send a message or if he changes the subject and asks leading questions when the conversation has gone cold, he’s probably into you.
If he talks about spending time with other girls and doesn’t make it clear that they’re just his friends, then this is a bad sign that he doesn’t see you the way you’d like. This isn’t a deal breaker, but you’ll need to change his view of you if you want him to see you as anything other than a friend.
You know how when you like a guy you sometimes ramble on about nothing without realizing it? Often guys do the same thing. If he’s writing thoughtful, well-crafted replies to your texts then it’s clear that he’s invested in the conversation. When he replies with one-word answers this is a sign that he’s bored or is just being polite.
Often guys will look for an excuse to text you. Maybe you’re in a class together or you work in the same place. If all his interactions start and end with trying to get you to switch a shift, pick him up from the airport, or help him with homework, this is a bad sign. Long story short, he may text you a lot but if he’s just trying to get something from you and then the conversation is over, don’t read too much into it. This doesn’t mean there’s no hope, but you’ll have to take the initiative to move these conversations beyond business as usual.
This also goes for guys who are just trying to get nudes or get into your pants. Guys like this are easy to spot with their late-night texts and flirty language.
Few happy relationships began with “What are you wearing?” How can you tell if he’s serious about you over text? This one is harder. If he’s respectful, quick to respond. If all his texts seem thought out and not random. If he texts you during the day, these are all good signs that he wants something serious. But in the end, you can’t be sure until it moves beyond text. Try moving the conversation towards seeing him in person. You don’t have to be the one to ask him out, although that’s okay too. But if you bring up more things you like to do in real life, as well as things you’re looking forward to, restaurants you like and activities you enjoy, he’s going to get the hint and ask you out if he’s really interested.
Your connection can be improved and strengthened with texting but a face to face element is still vital to a real relationship.
Be wary of guys who just text you for weeks or months without ever making the next move. They may not be the kind of guy you’re looking for.